Confessions of a working mum (by Zaidah)May 13, 2018
Laylatul Qadar – The Night of PowerJune 1, 2018
Ramadhan is here in action. The most beautiful and beloved month of the year is back. A special month of devotion and purification, where we can spiritually cleanse our soul, lives, and minds. An important time where Muslims fast with their faith and engage in extra prayers, as well as learn to forgive and repent, be kind and give back.
Ramadhan is not an opportunity to be missed. It is so much more than not being able to eat or drink from sunrise to sunset. It is a wonderful chance to connect with Allah swt on a different level, and to read and get to know the Quran. Through all this, we can work on our patience and discipline, and strengthen our relationship with our Creator.
What does Ramadhan mean to me now that I am a mum?
Since having my own family, the spirit of Ramadhan has felt so much more meaningful and exciting. As a parent you automatically want to share the essence of Ramadhan’s beauty with your children, explaining to them the blessings of the month, the rewards they can obtain, and the concept of 30 days of good deeds. It can be a great way to teach children the importance of being kind and loving, and most of all guiding them to give.
As parents, we hold the responsibility of influencing our children to pray and fast, whilst clarifying to them why we have to do so. With such a blessed month as Ramadhan, we can use it as a good time to teach our little ones to start their spiritual journey, or at least ponder what it is all about.
I used to remember being told when I was around the age of seven that I could partake in fasting for just half a day to begin with. Some children are stronger and can fast the whole day at a young age, while others may prefer to start slow and build up as they grow.
Ramadhan incorporates numerous family activities for children to get involved with and be given a role to play. They can join in prayers and reading at home or at the mosque, helping out with meals in the kitchen, and in any way offering aid to the needy and less fortunate. Values and qualities can be instilled in children during this month, along with creating so much necessary awareness.
Tips for Mums on how to make the most of Ramadhan
On the other hand, being mothers we are almost always busy, and some may feel sad and discouraged when they are not able to devote as much time in their religious practices as they would like. Do not feel disheartened, as we are raising the next generation, which in itself is a huge religious act and blessing. We can strive to do as much as we can, but it is better to go smart rather than hard.
1. Make your intentions
Acts always begin from intentions. Therefore if you sincerely intend an act, even if you do not get to accomplish it, you will still be rewarded as if you had done it. With this, every act you engage in can become a multitude of Ibadah practices.
2. Involve more Dhikr
Dhikr is beneficial act of worship. It does not require a mother to need isolated time alone, as she can make dhikr all day while she cooks, cleans, feeds, works etc. Reading dhikr out loud can also benefit the little ones to hear and learn. It’s as simple as reading dhikr while you’re playing with toys or arts and crafts with your child.
3. Revive the Sunnah
Adding small sunnahs to daily life such as smiling and being kind, helping others and not getting angry, saying salam and bismillah (before doing anything), and sleeping on your right side are simple little ways that all account for.
4. Reduce time in the kitchen
Ramadhan is a time to feed the soul, not the body. Plan your meals in advance in an attempt to cook efficiently, so more time can be spent for Ibadah. Or if you like, earn extra rewards by sharing your meals with friends and neighbours.
5. Bonus Ideas
For mothers who are unable to read the Quran at any time, they may instead listen to the Quran with full intention and concentration, or branch out to watching Islamic lectures. When I am limited with time, I usually multitask and have a lecture playing in the background while I cook or play, or even when I am in the car running my errands for the day. Teaching children about Islam is also an act of ongoing charity, and there are plenty ways to do this.
Most importantly, it is about remaining consistent with our deeds and remembering that it is not always about quantity, rather it is about quality. Let us talk about the love and mercy of Allah, and show our family members compassion and appreciation of every small act. Donate more, and increase duas.
May Allah enable all mothers to make the most of Ramadhan.
Wishing you a blessed and peaceful Ramadhan. May your prayers be answered.